An intentional home is about the heart and relationships behind the home with everything supporting that core. In this post I show you what an intentional home is and how you can create one.
You don’t need tons of money and a Pinterest worthy home to have an intentional home. And you also don’t need perfect health and tons of energy. All you need is a “why” behind your house and the things inside. I want you to be encouraged that no matter what stage of life you are in or if you are going through a harder season, you can have an intentional home life! So what is an intentional home, you may ask? Let me break it down into 5 different things.
What is an Intentional Home?
An intentional home is a home where family and relationships are most important. Everything else I am going to mention doesn’t really do a whole lot if you don’t make the center of the home the family relationships.
It is a place that is steeped in intentional living. Everything in the home (including traditions, routines, and what we spend time and money on) are intentional and represent what is most important to each unique family and family culture. Along those same lines, it is a place where technology and mobile devices are in the background of life instead of the whole home being all about them. This doesn’t mean it is a home void of technology, but that technology is put in its rightful place below relationships and more important things.
An intentional home is a place of comfort and reprieve from the stresses of life where everyone can relax at the end of the day and be filled up instead of drained. Once again, this has more to do with the relationships than cozy pillows and pretty artwork. Although that stuff helps add to comfort! But without good relationships in the home, a home will never be a break from the stresses of life.
And lastly, it is an atmosphere that inspires, encourages and where learning abounds. I have a wonderful picture in my mind of a home where everywhere you turn you are encouraged toward goodness, truth and beauty: a beautiful painting on the wall, an inspiring quote, books in a bin by the couch that brings learning to life, or a child in the corner learning the piano.
How to Create an Intentional Home
1. Focus on relationships
This is such an important thing and the first step to creating an intentional home. So how do you do that?
- Spending quality time with each family member is a good thing to do to help focus on relationships. This can include having regular date nights or quality time with each child. And there is no “perfect” schedule for doing this. Some people do it once a week, others once a month, others once a quarter. Do however often works for your family and your schedule. Just make sure you are connecting with each kid individually.
- Be a team with your spouse as well as date them! If you own a company, you have regular meetings in order for the company to run smoothly. If you want your home to run smoothly, you have to be on the same page as your spouse and work together as a team to get everything done! But not only that, also have fun together!
- Have regular game nights, family dinners, family getaways, etc. Spend time all together as a family without interruptions!
I want to pause here and say that if you are a single parent, you can create an intentional home for your family too! I don’t want you to ever feel like you are lesser-than because you don’t have a spouse to help. You are incredible and can do this!
2. Figure out what matters most to you
Find out what you want your family culture to be about, what traditions you want and if you want to live a life of slow living or if you all enjoy being busy. Just make sure that what you are busy with lines up with your core values! Take the time to sit down, talk with your spouse (if you have one) and get on the same page about what really matters most to you and spend your time and money on those things. Go here if you need to figure out if what you are spending your time on currently is what matters to you.
3. Declutter and get rid of things that don’t matter so your living space isn’t chaotic
The amount of stuff each family likes is going to vary, just make sure that what you keep in your house is adding to the overall family culture and environment you are wanting to go for. Go room by room and figure out if each thing in there serves a purpose behind your values and ideal family culture. I love the minimal mom for decluttering tips.
4. Take technology breaks
I’m not saying get rid of them, just be more intentional. Take regular breaks so your kids can have undivided attention from you! This could be a few hours a day, one day a week, one weekend a month or one week a year. Once again, this is YOUR life and home so do only what works for your family culture. If you do any one of those, though, I can assure you that you will be SO glad you did.
5. Streamline and create systems for things in your life so that you aren’t spending so much time on things that don’t matter
Take careful consideration to what is zapping your mental reserves and try and automate those things to help. Here are a few ideas
- Grocery Delivery
- Telehealth visits
- Automated Bill Pay
- Unsubscribe from emails that are just clutter
6. Be content with your own home and what you have
You don’t have to have tons of money or fancy furniture to create an intentional home. Get a gratitude journal or try focusing on how you are thankful for what you have and use what you already own! No need to go buy tons of things to be intentional.
7. Create intentional spaces in your home
This is the fun part! Get creative and figure out how different spots in your home can inspire, encourage help with learning. This includes these 3 types of spaces.
1. Supportive spaces that foster learning and inspiration for things that are lovely, true and good.
- Books all over or a book nook
- An area to play board games and educational games or puzzles (this could be a cabinet in the dining room with those inside!)
- Educational Toys
- A cozy living room to watch good, wholesome family movies
- Musical Instruments
- Works of Art
- Art area with a caddy full of crayons, markers, etc. and coloring books, construction paper, how to draw books
Read more about creating an atmosphere of learning here
2. Productive spaces that help streamline and make things better
- Home office to work in away from everything else so you can be in work mode in one place and then relax in others.
- Filing cabinet or place to file paper clutter
- Specific desks or tables for working
3. Relaxing spaces
- Essential Oils or candles can fill the whole room and automatically make the room cozy and relaxing
- Candles and plants on the coffee table or side tables
- Book nooks, cozy chairs
- Placing a vintage book and small plant is an easy way to make a space relaxing